At the Office:
After You've Already Started Your Career
by Kim Heyman, LCSW
ongratulations! If you are reading this, you are considering taking the next step toward parenthood — an amazing life experience and a job like no other.
Speaking of jobs, if you are already working and planning to continue during your pregnancy and beyond, there is a lot to consider as you approach parenthood. Deciding to have a child is a huge, life-changing choice. It is also a very personal choice, which should have no bearing on your job security.
Getting pregnant is not illegal, contrary to what some bosses and human resources reps might suggest. And it has nothing to do with your work. From a company perspective it can, however, disrupt business, cost money and possibly affect your productivity. Regardless of how “family oriented” your company claims to be, it has only one real concern: the bottom line. This is why the company shouldn’t be privy to your personal plans.
Discretion is key, especially since you don’t know how long it might take to get pregnant. Of course, not every boss or co-worker will throw you under the bus if you talk babies, but try to be cautious.
Pick one trusted confidant, maybe another working mom. For a peek into the future, pay attention to the way other mothers have been treated in your workplace. If you’re lucky, some have come before you to pave the way for a happy experience. If your company is notorious for it’s ill treatment of mothers, you might consider looking for another job.